6 Key Drivers to Build a #ResilientMindset

by kellylavieri on May 7, 2015



Life is full of uphill battles. There is always something we have to overcome throughout our day..exercise, eating right, finishing a project, coordinate kids schedule, and more. Sometimes we look up the long road ahead and we wonder, will we or can we continue to move forward successfully.

The study of neuroscience tells us the brain is the control center of the body, mindset, and emotional context play a major role in developing a #ResilientMindset.  If one’s mindset is fixed, very structured with little room for thinking and visualizing “outside the box” one would have a hard time developing the six drivers of a #ResilientMindset, which are optimism, social connections, humor, gratitude, and accepting help, usually the toughest one of all.

Our attitude drives our behavior. This is the foundation for resilience; the way we view the world.

The capacity for optimism is the first key driver to move you to a #ResilentMindset. It is the expectation that good things will happen in the future. This is lens or outlook that one would have in order to keep adversity in focus with their perspective. If you believe that your troubles are temporary, then there is always a solution. This enables you to keep moving forward and not feel stuck in place.

Martin Seligman, PhD in his book Learned Optimism notes “Life inflicts the same setbacks and tragedies on the optimist as on the pessimist, but the optimist weathers them better.” Developing an optimistic attitude reduces the sense of helplessness and hopelessness that reduces motivation and problem solving. In addition, optimism keeps you healthy, studies show a positive or optimistic perspectives bolsters the immune system of the body.

In the process of habit change we discussed how relationships impact sustainable change. Social connections/relationships the Cultivating and nurturing of relationships with others is the second key driver of a #ResilientMindset. Although stressful events can make a person feel isolated, we are not alone. Reaching out to family, friends, loved ones, co-workers, clergy, and others in our lives can help to buffer the effects of life stressors on our functioning. Research has shown that the quality of our relationships with other people influences how emotionally resilient we can be in the face of a crisis. Biologically, social ties stimulate the release of oxytocin, a hormone that has been linked with the reduction of fear and anxiety, in part by limiting the cortisol response to stress.

Change is what makes life happen. There is a need to have a flexible mindset  and embrace change as an opportunity for growth. The Social Readjustment Rating Scale (SRRS), also known as the Holmes-Rahe Scale of Life Stress, identifies both positive and negative life changes with stress. Learning to view the challenge of change as a routine part of life develops a higher level of resilence. Sometimes a welcome change brings about a new outlook, something to look forward too, a #ResilientMindset.

There is substantial evidence for the effectiveness of appropriate humor as a coping mechanism. In order to notice the humor in a situation, we must be willing to step back and take on the role of an observer. This distance can also help us gain perspective and acknowledge the pain or awkwardness of a situation. Laughing changes the overall physiology of the body, reducing stress and creating well-being. Research shows that Positive reframing (i.e., trying to see things in a more positive light, looking for something good in what happened), acceptance and humor coping had positive effects on satisfaction.

Having a sense of gratitude, being grateful for the things that go right and the people that help out along the way is another driver of resilience. This is in sharp contrast to feeling entitled to having things go your way that is so common in society today. Instead, there are positive psychological benefits to acknowledging the people in your life, the events worthy of celebrating, and even the little things that make life easier. Gratitude is a sentiment we’d all do well to cultivate, according to positive psychologists, mental  health clinicians and researchers who seek to help everyone create more joy in life. Just writing down 3 things you are grateful for everyday begins of pattern of thankfulness and development of #ResilientMindset.

The most difficult driver for many is to accept help. In our society asking or accepting help has meant you are incapable of doing something on your own. This is quite the contrary. Being willing to ask for and/or receive help can be difficult, especially for people in the helping and education professions. Consider that modeling a willingness to seek out or accept help for your friends, colleagues, or family members will show them how they can also seek guidance or support and helping others create a #ResilentMindset.

Keep moving forward by using these 6 driver to create a #ResilentMindset. Each driver will facilitate sustainable habit change, as well as help you to move forward from the enviable setbacks that occur in everyday life!…So next time when you look up that great hill, crack an optimistic smile, call a friend to come along, welcome the change in scenery, laugh, be grateful that you have the chance to move forward…and accept a hand to reach the top.

Helping you live your life better, daily! KJ

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