Is your relationship important to successful habit change?

by kellylavieri on April 26, 2015

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Enduring and meaningful relationships are one of the greatest keys to health and happiness throughout one’s life. Having a good network of healthy relationships enhances open mindedness, mental acuity, and emotional stability. It takes practice to have a positive social network that can produce compelling benefits to all. None are more than the relationships you have in your own home with your spouse, partner and children.

In last week’s blogs on simplicity, I spoke about taking small steps daily toward your goal. Habit change can be difficult, and setbacks will occur, having loving support from your family helps one get through those difficult steps easier. Change is a process and when relationships or your support system is not on board with your changes or goals, they can hinder the process toward successful change for both adults and children.


“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” ~ Anthony Robbins


To foster successful habit change you must have relationships where there is more giving than taking…on all sides.

When my son Josh was little he only wanted to eat a few veggies, so I said, “I don’t care if you need chocolate sauce to dip those green beans in, at least you are eating the beans”. Ahha an idea was born and from then on we have had a condiment tray.

Here are a couple tips that have been successful in my house with my husband of 25 years and my teenage son.

1.  Create a condiment tray for your table. Trying new foods are difficult without a sauce. We have on our condiment tray, ketchup, mustard, horseradish, chocolate sauce..yes! a variety of barbeque sauce, oil and vinegar, parmesan cheese, salt and pepper.

2). Take one day out of the week to try a new exercise as a family. We are on the go all the time and my family wanted to just lay around (Josh) on the weekends. So I created a 1-2-3 approach to adding exercise on Saturday. 1-new exercise-do it for 2 minutes-3 times. It became a challenge with whose new exercise we were going to try. This help to foster a deeper relationship with my son and husband.

Being supportive and enthusiastic about something new together will usually bring everyone a bit closer. As humans we are programmed to want to help, it is only when we feel rejected or made fun of that we become resistant to change. Take time to foster successful and supportive change in each other…everyone benefits.


Helping you live your life better, Daily!

Kelly 🙂

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